Rushing Things With Another Woman When You Are Getting A Divorce

Question From A Reader: Since the divorce stuff started, I have been trying to talk to different women as it has been 7 years since I have been single.

I met this one woman who is very interesting, we have exchanged several long emails, text messaged each other, talked on the phone, and had dinner together, all in about a week of knowing each other.

Now, I am not trying to jump back into anything serious and I don't want to rush into anything either.

However, I really like this woman and want to get to know her better and she already knows I am going through a divorce.

Can you give me some tips on subtle ways I can let her know that I am interested in her as more than just a friend?

Answer:

The first thing you need to do is slow down, relax, and perhaps get some counseling to help you through your divorce.

You are going through a divorce and need some emotional support and this woman is providing that for you.

However, you want something more from it and already know that it is not a good idea to rush or get in anything serious right now.

When you are going through a divorce getting serious and rushing things with a woman is not what you need to do.

Yet, it is essentially what you are doing with this woman or at least getting ready to try and do.

Several long emails, in combination with text messages, talking on the phone, and having dinner together, in the span of a week; qualifies as both rushing things and becoming serious with her.

Getting sexually involved or being more than just friends with her at this point in your life would be a huge risk and mistake on your part.

Hopefully she already understands this but why take that chance, by trying to make a move on her.

The best thing for you to do is get some counseling or continue to lean on her for emotional support and find yourself another woman to have a casual fling with, without the emotional attachment.