The Debate Between Heart and Mind

Sometimes love can be so confusing! Instead of having an angel on one shoulder and the devil on the other, you feel your heart and mind are at odds with each other.

Your heart says, He’s perfect, and I just can’t get enough of him. He’s miserable when I’m not there, and it seems like it’s meant to be! I’ve never been so happy as I have been with him. Then your mind speaks up, yeah, right, that’s what Sarah says about her loser fiancé. Love is blind, remember? Try to think rationally about this!

Isn’t how love feels sometimes? Your heart is racing, happy, and so deeply in love. All those sappy songs on the radio actually make you cry. You wonder how you got so lucky to be with this gorgeous guy. At the same time, your mind is screaming stop!!! Slow down! Think this through!!! You look at your parents and their miserable marriage. They describe their meeting very similarly to your present circumstance. Are you blindly heading down the same path, though you swore you would make your marriage different?

Who should win this battle? Should you listen to your irrational but happy heart, or your sensible but impersonal mind? The answer is to listen to both. Your mind will notice the potential pitfalls while your heart will careful ignore them. Yet, you heart will help you to love, to serve and to help the relationship progress. It also helps to have it all laid out for you, to have an outsider calm the heart to a more rational state, and ease the mind’s discomfort. Pay attention to what your friends and family think of him. They will notice things you cannot. Figure out who he is really beyond the infatuation, and you will find your answer.

Wendy Bridger, LMSW, relationship expert, speaker and author, is co-creator of "Is He Right for Me?" simple virtual test drive to Help women decide if he is "The One." Come join the fun at http://www.isherightforme.com Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Wendy_Bridger